vrijdag 11 januari 2013

Alice in Wonderland and a ranty-rant, because it's been too long

This is the last outfit I'll post with my semi short pink hair! Well, my hair will still be pink after cutting it but it'll be legit short! I always have the same kind of lame-o feeling a couple of days before I get my hair cut. Before making the appointment I have this moment of wondering whether I REALLY want to get it cut or not (a little piece of the girl who wants princess hair still resides somewhere in my brain) but once I made the hair-cutting official I start getting really irritated with my hair, almost to the point where I want to cut it myself.  I've been wearing it in a ratty little ponytail all week so I'll be hella happy to have it short again, tomorra. I'll take a little moment for this particular hairstyle because it has been awesome. You did well, hair. I salute you.

Now a little funny story, related to hair and a little rant on how people always seem to think that other people care about their personal opinions on things. In school, I was talking to this dude about dying hair. He's a goth so he dyes his hair black, quite the opposite of my bright pink 'do. He talked about the various things he wanted to do and, naturally, I talked about my hair related adventures, including my plans of getting the Robyn 'do with the option to do a mohawk. He looked at me, confused, saying "Really? You serious?" to which I replied "Uh, yeah?". He flat out told me the following: "It'll look terrible on you." I flat out told him this: "Well dude, I really do not care whether some random person may or may not find me attractive with a certain hairstyle because, frankly, there's more important stuff in the world to worry about. Also, I will cut my hair the way I like." I'd like to say that I stopped here but after that eloquent burn I added "TOO BAD, MOTHERFUCKAH" and walked away. I felt particularly bad ass that day. But being confronted by these kinds of things always raises a certain annoying point.

Why do people feel the need to tell other people what they should or should not do with their appearance? "Don't get that haircut, it'll look hideous on you.", "Take off that make-up babe, you look like a hooker.", "Those pants are VERY unflattering, you know.", "Are you sure you want to wear this?", "Those shoes are very... interesting.", we've all heard similar comments. I know I have. Somehow, people have the idea that they can tell you whatever they want and like, just because they can. I personally don't feel the need to tell someone that I think they look terrible when that is the case, unless it's a kind of "there's lipstick on your teeth" thing going on. In those kinds of situations you should be good person and tell them what's up. However, if they're wearing a certain type of thing that's not particularly your style, just don't say anything. Bitch to your friends if you want to, fine. No harm done. But just because you have a certain idea about what defines beauty doesn't mean that you possess the cold, hard truth on what beauty is. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is such a well-known saying but I barely know any people who actually listen to their own advice. I'm still a snot-nosed punk but at least I found out that NOTHING in life is written in concrete, so to speak. Whether it's an opinion on something, a dream about the future, the maximal capacity of our technology, it all changes. And I think we all agree that the idea on what is attractive changes a hell of a lot, looking at fashion history. We think the people in the eighties were silly mofo's with the shoulder pads and neon colors, even looking back at what we wore ten years ago makes us laugh our ass off. But back then, we thought we were stone cold foxes.

Apart from the whole "define beauty" discussion, I also just really get kind of pissed when people automatically assume that you wear certain things and do certain things solely to be attractive to men. Because us womenfolk have nothing better to worry about than landing some dude. I tell you what: I'd rather have my future guy know that I sometimes to crazy shit with my appearance. Otherwise he'll be in for a big shock everytime I dye my hair a different color. It's part of my personality. My future dude will love me, bald and pierced or long blonde braids and tattooed, for the delightfully crazy chick that I am. As he should. /rant

Now that I got that out of the way, pictures of my outfit are in place. The tights and earrings are two of my awesome christmas prezzies, I love them so much.

Dress: T2 Vintage
Sweater: Zara
Tights, Earrrings: Forever 21
Shoes: New Look
Ring: Claires

This is very soft and cutesy for my style nowadays but I felt so good in all these pretty colors. The soft hues and mary janes made me feel so sweet. Sometimes a girl just wants to twirl around in a pretty floral dress! Have a nice weekend and lots of luck to all of you with exams!

12 opmerkingen:

  1. Ah i completely agree with you and this rant has so much oomph!

    I adore your outfit today. That last photo is especially pretty.

  2. your hair is so wonderful! always love your style!! amazing colors!! gorgeous tights and printed dress!!
    Romwe giveaway on my blog:)

  3. Ik ben echt benieuwd naar je nieuw kapseltje, maar ga je roze haar toch wel missen want dat vind ik nu eens echt geweldig bij je staan (zowel bij je stijl als je karakter).

    En ik geef je op alle punten gelijk. Mijn ouders zijn geweldig goed in kritiek leveren op mijn uiterlijk. Mijn haar moet 1) zo lang mogelijk zijn, 2) blond. Veel opties blijven er dan niet over. Ik ben ooit zo rebels geweest om mijn haar tot schouderhoogte te knippen en toen heeft mijn vader een maand niet tegen me gesproken en enkel gerefereerd naar me als "zoon". No kidding. En ik vind het ook echt belachelijk hoe vrouwen altijd mooi "moeten en willen" zijn voor mannen, GRR. Misschien dat wij ook een eigen mening hebben over stijl onafhankelijk van het andere geslacht?!

    Anyway, ik wil snel nieuwe foto's van je Robyn kapsel ;)

  4. People always tend to think that everyone is interested in what they think. Which is not the case. I've had a lot of 'that's interesting' or 'thats very brave' comments in my time and I just kinda ignore them. Gotta go with what makes you happy.

    I'm looking forward to seeing your awesome new hair, I bet it'll be amazing.

  5. I love your hair and your hair color, the pink hair really suits you. I've always wanted to try a bright hair color but I've been too chicken shit thus far. I hate that as well, when people feel the need to act as if their opinion should somehow change your opinion, I use to have a lot of friends that did that to me and I'm glad I no longer let peoples opinions warp my own. I never understand people who try to push what they find attractive onto other people, why do they want to share all the people and things they find attractive/sexy? I'm selfish I don't want to share my sexy so I'm okay if the cheese stands alone. I love your sense of style and all the color.


  6. Wow I love the pastel colours palette of the outfit and your hair, it looks so springy! You look ready for spring/summer in the photos :)

  7. Screw that douche bag! I do think when you get older and your still dying your hair people care less. I'd love to see a hawk! Woa! Hotness! I really love these muted dreamy colors on you, just delicious! Can't wait to see the new hair, it always loos killer no matter what you do.

  8. yeah i don't get why anyone seems to think it is in their rights to comment on how a person might look with a certain hairstyle or way of dress. especially if that is not the question (if a question at all) that is being asked.

    i love this outfit! those tights are amazing.
    and i saw a glimpse of your hair on your sisters blog, and OMG YOU ARE SUCH A BABE.

  9. Hmph! Yeah, comments like these are quite annoying. My mother often doesn't like my outfits and she's definitely not afraid to speak her mind...I mean, I'm not getting all angry or disappointed just becasue she doesn't like my outfits and I'm keeping wearing them for sure, but for god's sake, why should you tell me EVERY TIME that I look horrible and definitely not nice?! I'm a person too, you know, I have FEELINGS. Now that I ranted a little let me say it: I love this outfit <3 it looks very Alice-esque, maybe because of those pretty shoes and the sky tights :) it really looks wonderful on you...and it's very "interesting" LOL :D

  10. These photos are brilliant! And preach it! People always think they have a say to someone else's body and how it should look; that dude sounds like a jerk and I can't wait to see your new 'do :).

  11. Hehehe, oh, the story about you talking to the guy made me giggle.
    I saw a quote somewhere that said "Girls don't dress up to impress guys, they dress up to out-dress other girls. If they wanted to impress guys, they'd just run around naked all the time" and that is... well, half true. My husband does appreciate my style, and he likes it when I wear pretty or sexy things, but generally I dress up because... I love to. Because it's fun, and it makes me feel pretty. Not because I think it'll make me popular in society. Obviously I love getting complimented, but it's not what I live for. The only person I ever dress for other than myself is my husband, and I think that's the way it should be. (I'm also very lucky that he's always on board for me to dye my hair or play around with my style).
    And anyway, how could he have known what the hair would look like on you if he'd never seen it before? (He was totally wrong. It looks awesome on you.)